The longer I work with clients the more I realise that most of us who have issues with food are just hurting in some way and are looking for love/comfort. We might have a very loving relationship with someone else but when we don’t love ourselves there’s something missing and we use food to fill the gap. For others it could be alcohol, drugs, smoking or gambling.
However food appears to be the most common as it is quick and simple, not hurting anyone else and can be easily hidden. Unfortunately however, we only feel good for a split second with the initial taste, then the guilt sets in, we feel uneasy and begin to beat ourselves up which only leads to more eating or bingeing. Unfortunately eating food only keeps the emotion inside of us. Instead of confronting our issues, we eat that only creates further issues.
The only time that our body actually wants food is when it is physically hungry. So when we eat for emotional reasons, it doesn’t work, because our body does not want food, it needs comfort in some other way. We keep eating waiting for that magical fix that never comes.
This will then fill the physical need and enable us to find positive, empowering things which will serve the emotional need. The excellent thing about natural eating is that it is based on awareness. Once you are aware of your habits/triggers about food you can make a different option.
The key is to honor your emotions, notice that you are sad or lonely or stressed out. Sometimes a good cry is your answer as this lets you find the emotion out of your body. Other methods of doing this is to laugh, sing, scream or do something physical like jogging, biking or martial arts.
You will discover that it is based around certain events and activities which have led to negative habits. Because once you’re aware of what you’re doing you can find a way to prevent those triggers and make different positive decisions.
I am a wife and mother who has recovered from twenty years of weight and food related issues. I used to binge on food uncontrollably and then exercise excessively to get rid of it. After being diagnosed with depression and bulimia in 1996 I had been introduced to Natural Eating.